Chuck Spezzano
July is a forgiving month but don’t push your luck or it will push back. In general, life is easier and it won't demand as much from you. On the other hand, July is also a month to forgive everything; starting with yourself for having given yourself so much pain in the past. Forgive yourself. Forgive situations. Forgive others. Forgive God. If you knew the subconscious/unconscious mind, you would know that everyone you have a grievance toward, because they seem to have done something to you or not done something for you, were framed and used by you in order for you to separate and do things your own way. If you can take responsibility for your life, you can change it. Otherwise, you will rant about what has happened to you, repressing that everyone acted according to your hidden script. All of our upsets come from the split between our conscious script that others didn’t live up to and our hidden script in which they did exactly what we wanted for ego-driven goals. This only added more attack and self-attack to our lives which is the foundation of the ego. July is ruled mostly by the sign of Cancer whose major life lesson is the most difficult to learn – forgiveness. Forgiveness is a choice to help rather than judge. It is the choice for responsibility, innocence and bonding once more. It is the choice to stop blaming others for what we believe we are guilty of. So, this month we are called to forgive continuously. If we are not at peace, if we have any kind of problem, if anyone around us needs help, then our best response is to forgive. Forgiveness helps everyone but it is mostly for our benefit. Everything in the world reflects our mind. It is our self-concepts made into a movie that shows us what we perceive in the world. The world shows us what we think about ourselves at ever deeper layers of the mind. The world and our experience are our responsibility. Anytime you are not happy, there is someone to forgive. Anytime you have a problem, you have a hidden or not so hidden grievance with another. Forgive! Even if you can't feel it, the choice to forgive has effect. It frees you of hidden guilt. It ends separation. It brings bonding, peace and happiness. It leads you to a better place. On the other hand, your judgments and grievances lead to separation and suffering. As our friend, Miranda Holden (now MacPherson) states in her book on Boundless Love: “Holding a grievance is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will keel over and die.” Anything you hold against anyone, at subconscious levels, you hold against everyone beginning with your partner, your parents and God. Forgive everything this month from morning till night. If you are upset or even not feeling happy, you are blaming someone. Use your emotions as a n indication of what needs healing in you and as a motivation to accomplish it. Thus, step by step, you will restore what was lost in your life. There is a pleasantness and a naturalness to July that is nurturing, but there may be some emotional coldness the first weekend that can be transformed with your love and forgiveness. In the third week, there is a bit of the trickster about but it’s not the dark or shadow trickster. The first week in July is all about receiving God’s Love. Let it pour into you and through you to bring joy and melt any problem. Let your receiving of this Love increase your self-love and every good thing in your life. Let it melt the ancient icebergs that may surface in the first weekend. The second week is all about listening. The more openness you have, the more hope you will have. The answers are all around you as well as within and listening makes you availa ble to them. Listening is one of the great gifts we give to our partner and to Heaven. The third week is all about giving, one of the major principles of love, happiness and rejuvenation. Forgiveness is simply a giving forth to others instead of attacking them. The final week of July is all about gratitude. Gratitude generates flow where we have been stuck. It is the doorway into love and it blesses us as well as others. We can be grateful not only for the love that others give us but also for any nastiness or problems because they show us what needs healing in us. It may have been hidden under layers of denial and eating away at us but this person brought this subconscious or unconscious pattern buried in us to our attention for healing. As my friend the poet, Sam Hazo, writes, “When you are grateful, you get to enjoy everything twice.” In the last few days of July, our Dark Stories that have generated defeat and ruin become visible for healing. This gives us the opportunity to transform old and ancient scripts that have long troubled us. It’s a good time for realizing there must be a better way and letting go as a result. Wishing you a great month full of love and upliftment. Chuck Spezzano Turtle Bay, Hawaii July 2010 |